Walls seem to spring up overnight between people who love each other. Sometimes we need to do some honest detective work to find the root cause.
We always want to think the rift is because of what the other person said or didn’t say, did or didn’t do. However, what we have authority over is the issues of our own heart. Most often there is a root of fear. The Lord said, “Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” (Isa 41:10 NKJV) All unforgiveness is fear based. It binds us to the past and fouls up our future. We fear being vulnerable to further hurt if we let go of the thoughtless word or deed. This fear makes us self-protect and bind our hurts around us tight.
We live in a fallen world with an active enemy who hates marriage. He sets all kinds of traps, causing us to step back from the intimacy we so desire. Our enemy would like to keep these hidden, so we will not acknowledge our fear and trust our Lord.
Our Savior was the example of trusting vulnerability when He hung on the cross. He trusted His Father to uphold Him in Their righteous cause. We can trust Father to take care of us, and freely forgive. Hurts and offenses come, but we do not have to take them as our own. Let them go, and He will bring grace and mercy into the situation.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (2 Tim 1:7) His love is greater that any hurt that is sent our way, intentionally or unintentionally. We have a sound mind that can choose to respond from within His grace. And He gives us the power to do it!
Carol Gordon
Co-Founder & Director
Heart Menders Int'l, Inc.
http://www.heartmenders.org/
"Pioneering Transformational Discipleship since 1987"
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